Adoption : by More by aeonflux01
submitted Monday Apr 07th, 2008
Guilt
I have a one month old son, but when I found out I was pregnant with him I planned on giving him up for adoption. I had so much anger for the dad, and was in such a bad place in my life I already have a ten year old daughter and I didnt really have a place to stay so i had really mixed emotions about keeping the baby! I started working with a adoption agency and signed all the paper work to go through with it. They helped me with my bills and even helped me get an apartment... I startd having second thoughts about this growing baby inside me, wondering how I could do it..I knew in my heart that I had made up my mind and could not follow through with it.. Now that my beautiful son is here and everything is goin so great in our lifes i do feel guilt about the family that wanted my baby boy! I didnt set out to hurt these people but my emotions were so out of wack i really dont even think i was in control of my own feelings!
The dad and I are trying to work things out and be a family for the baby, and my family and i just love this little boy... Iam so in love with him it hurts me when I look at him and know that I almost did something i would probably never forgive myself for!
Comments on Adoption
Awsome Mother : All of who have had children have had our "what if moments".
Good on you for trying to make a family for your child! Don't beat yourself up so much. by Anonymous Commentor on Wednesday Apr 16th, 2008
It's Normal : Your mixed emotions were perfectly normal. And because it's so common there are clauses in all contracts now, and all adoptive parents are warned that this can happen.
Don't feel bad about what you planned to do, before you felt a bond with your child. I did the same thing, and I understand that I was thinking of the best interest of my child at the time I decided on adoption. I'm glad I changed my mind, but there are no guarantees he wouldn't be better off with the family who might have had him. Life is full of choices, and if your son ever hears about what you almost did he will probably feel all the more wanted for your keeping him despite the difficulty you faced. Forgive yourself and enjoy your son. The couple who would have adopted your son would now have the son or daughter that they were destined to have, being top of the adoptive list.. so they would probably be thanking you!
Be happy! And go give your son a hug. :) by Anonymous Commentor on Thursday Apr 24th, 2008
It's Normal : Your mixed emotions were perfectly normal. And because it's so common there are clauses in all contracts now, and all adoptive parents are warned that this can happen.
Don't feel bad about what you planned to do, before you felt a bond with your child. I did the same thing, and I understand that I was thinking of the best interest of my child at the time I decided on adoption. I'm glad I changed my mind, but there are no guarantees he wouldn't be better off with the family who might have had him. Life is full of choices, and if your son ever hears about what you almost did he will probably feel all the more wanted for your keeping him despite the difficulty you faced. Forgive yourself and enjoy your son. The couple who would have adopted your son would now have the son or daughter that they were destined to have, being top of the adoptive list.. so they would probably be thanking you!
Be happy! And go give your son a hug. :) by Anonymous Commentor on Thursday Apr 24th, 2008
It's Normal : Your mixed emotions were perfectly normal. And because it's so common there are clauses in all contracts now, and all adoptive parents are warned that this can happen.
Don't feel bad about what you planned to do, before you felt a bond with your child. I did the same thing, and I understand that I was thinking of the best interest of my child at the time I decided on adoption. I'm glad I changed my mind, but there are no guarantees he wouldn't be better off with the family who might have had him. Life is full of choices, and if your son ever hears about what you almost did he will probably feel all the more wanted for your keeping him despite the difficulty you faced. Forgive yourself and enjoy your son. The couple who would have adopted your son would now have the son or daughter that they were destined to have, being top of the adoptive list.. so they would probably be thanking you!
Be happy! And go give your son a hug. :) by Anonymous Commentor on Thursday Apr 24th, 2008
Abortions : You considered adoption out of love. I'm sure you would have been trying to do the best by this baby as well as your daughter and yourself. Sadly there are many, many women who live with the guilit and sadnenss of having chosen abortion. Unlike you, they weren't able to change their mind.
The very fact that you're feeling uintly is an indication of what a wonderful, caring mother you are!
I wish you and your family a lifetime of happiness! :) by Anonymous Commentor on Wednesday Jul 16th, 2008
CONGRATULATIONS : THAT MEANS UR A GREAT MOM GOD WILL GIVE THE OTHER COUPLE A ANOTHER BABY TO ADOPT BUT UR SON NEEDED U FOREVER U DID GREAT AWESOME!!!! by Anonymous Commentor on Wednesday Sep 10th, 2008
its ok sweetie... : dont feel badly... you didnt do it... i feel guilty becuase when i was pregnant with my baby girl i was so scared i almost kinda thought about having an abortion... and i dont believe in that at all.. mostly cuz my fiance at the time [we're married now] was scared and i got more scared when he was. i wanted him to be happy. and when i got an ultrasound i was so excited to see her.. and when i thought about an abotion it killed me inside... i couldnt do it. and now shes 17 months old and i love her more than anything in the whole entire world. she is my world! so sweet and innocent and happy. i love being a mommy so much. and would never give her up. EVER!!!! i LOVE MY BABY GIRL! and sweetie i think its just all the hormones when your prego too!!! trust me!! i would never have normally even let it cross my mind ya know... but it just proves ur a good mommy since u feel badly about the thought of giving him away. and the family knew this was a possability too... its ok... you're not a bad mommy. and im not either... just try to put it out of your head cuz it didnt happen so you didnt do anything wrong ok. by Anonymous Commentor on Friday Sep 19th, 2008
GOJfsgwOhiPxlzsGisM : In awe of that aneswr! Really cool! by on Tuesday Sep 20th, 2011
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